Shots fired, 7 murders and how those events intersected with my life.

It all seemed too weird, too many police cars as I approached my neighborhood. I turned at my normal street but that intersection was block my a policeman, I could turn but not go strait. Then on my street another cop, I had spoken with him before and knew who he was. I waved, he waved back, but I could tell from his body language he was very tense. I proceed to my house and when I got out of my car I could hear the police on a loud speaker on the block behind my house. I had no idea of the gravity of what was going on, or how our city would change in a single day.

My wife met me at the door and asked if I knew what was going on. I answered “No”, I told her that it was probably someone barricaded themselves in a house over a foreclosure or divorce. No real worry with all these cops around, I said “looks like they have it under control”. I quickly changed my clothes because I had somewhere important to go. To the brewery to meet a friend and get a donation for our JDRF walk.

It had only been a few months since my youngest had been diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes and my friend Richard had offered to buy me a few drafts and give me a big donation for our fundraiser. I worked with Richard for 3 years before he left and went into retirement. I was all too excited to take him up on both offers.

Once again I had to wade through the road blocks and neighbors asking me what was going on. One person said they had seen three kids run through a few back yard and jump fences. I told them of the police on the loud speaker and the streets being blocked. Reassuring them the police had everything under control rather hastily because I was in a hurry. How profoundly wrong I was.

I arrived at the brewery 10 minutes later and Richard had secured a table on the patio. Ahh, yes, Red Rye Ale on a hot day, it tasted real good. Its always nice to meet up with him, our world views are different, but we always discuss issues without bitter dialog. I think we have both learned a lot from each other, and he is one of our biggest supporters of our walk.

After a few minutes I received a text from my wife and she told me the news, and shocking it was. The police had found 7 people dead, all murdered and the suspect was still at large. The victims were from my neighborhood and were found executed in 2 different houses. The police thought the suspect was held up in a house behind our block, but he was not. The shocking details were breaking all over the news.

There was reports of a man who shot at other drivers and police were scouring the city for him. I told Richard that it had to be all related. I had two drafts at that point and Richard had drank 3 (or more) and was ready to go. He offered to stay for one more if I wanted, I decided to take off, the lure of watching the news about the events unfolding was too much of a draw. I dropped off Richard at the bus stop (senior citizens get huge discounts on bus fairs) and then proceeded home. I even got a text from a friend wondering if we (my family) were safe.

As soon as I walk through the door the local TV station was pouring fragmented information with every breath they could take. The on scene news anchor looked to be out of breath, nervous and rattled. Soon the they cut to the traffic cams and showed a car chase. It was such a bizarre sight, it looked like something out of a movie. Many police cars in pursuit the suspect changed lane and drove on the wrong side of the freeway. This was so surreal, this was all happening with in a few mile of my house.

Within a few seconds of driving on the wrong side of the freeway the suspect drove off the road, jumped from his SUV and ran to a house. He took hostages and after a few hour stand off, he took his own life ending the day of tragedy and heartache. Many details came out, who he was and some of the motives. The one detail that puzzled me was the fact he had a child that went to my daughter’s school. I didn’t know him but remembered saying hi. He had a troubled youth and had been in jail a few times. Many that knew him, in two different lights they remembered him. Many will only remember him for the day of July the 8th 2011 and the events he beset on this community.

I will remember the fact that if I had stayed at the brewery for one more draft, I would have been right in the middle of the police chase. I got my donation for our walk, but my time at the brewery was cut short that day by a series of tragic events. These events started many years ago when a young boy was shuffled though the “system” and was not given the life changing direction needed. I’m not saying intervention would have changed those July 8th events, but we will never know. Intervention is better than none at all in a youth’s life.

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2011 looking back in a stream of consciousness

2011 has come and gone, it was not an easy year. Where do I start, where do I end? Does anyone really care? So here is my stream of consciousness about 2011. I started 2011 with 1 child with type 1 and now I end it with 2. I started Tweeting a lot in 2011 and when ended it a couple of thousand vents! April rolled around and it was the Diaversary for my daughter a few days later I was at the children’s hospital with my youngest. Antibodies attacked again. Stupid Antibodies, you blind idiots, you shot the wrong guy, AGAIN! Hey my kids need their beta cells. Can you just stick to your normal jobs, bacteria and viruses. Hey thanks to all the morons that ask “are your kids fat”. No Type 1 is an AUTOIMMUNE DISEASE! See link.

Thank you so much for all the people that Tweeted me while my wife and I were at the children’s hospital. For the next few weeks many of you keept checking in and asking how we were. It was the kindest show of solidarity and I will never forget and will never be able to repay fully. You guys are the best. I had a single guy with Type 1, in his 20″s, call me a rock star of a dad. Wow, that was the complement of the year.

I don’t really remember January, February or March. I’m sorry, it’s like you did not exists. So I’ll group you in with 2010 to spare you my rage. I took my older d-daughter out for Ice Cream and a Movie, yes I said ICE CREAM, loaded with SUGAR. Trust me, I understand their disease. Yes, they can eat it. Anyhow. We watched Cars 2. I enjoyed it more than she did. Her smile is something to behold. It’s a family tradition to take my kids to a movie and dinner or something fun, they remember it more than a big meal served to friends and family. The money is spent on them, understand now.

Oh, wait, lets talk more about ICE CREAM! Some ignorant fool named, wait, I can’t stand to say his name so I won’t, said “diabetics can’t eat ice cream”. What a nincompoop (found that word via thesaurus, we poked fun of the word thesaurus in college, it was immature, but funny). I bet if he wrote a paper about Type1 and Type2 diabetes, it would read like a confession of a crack head, written on paper from a spiral bound note book. Yes my kids can have ICE CREAM. #takethatwendell #wendellisignorant

I started this blog in 2011. I was overwhelmed by the response, and by who read and commented on it. Thank you for the many RT’s on Twitter, the sharing on your Online Daily’s. It started out telling a story of a scared little girl who had watched a second sister get diagnosed with a life long chronic disease. The story was getting her a bear like her sister’s had (Rufus the bear with diabetes), but he was a Doctor and he was healthy like her. He was to be the an Endo to the Rufus’ bear and to keep a watchful eye on her. She hugged and squeezed that bear so much after she opened the bag. I won that day and diabetes lost (screw you diabetes). She named him Dr Bear and he even went on our JDRF walk. That inspired me to write a children’s book about a Dr Bear and a girl who goes on adventures to help other little children, and they will have lots of fun on the way.

Our JDRF walk, it was September, no rain but a little cold. We got side tracked in our fund raising and did not meet our goal. So many friends came and walked, must have been around 60 or more. Our girls carried  their Rufus’ and their blue flamingos. We walked and fought back tears all morning. How could I cry when they smiled and were so happy. We stayed at the park by the river for another hour after our friends and family left. Our day of triumph over Type1, we did not want it to end.

Some where along the way I read a blog post where the guys son told him “diabetes is stupid”. Right on! One of the best blog posts I’ve read. I tweeted and put that as my Facebook status many time. Diabetes is Stupid. Thank you Carey for a great blog post.

My second daughter got her insulin pump about 6 weeks after her diagnoses. It was the Minimed Revel, works well, but I like our other daughters Ping better, and that’s purely my opinion only. It’s purple, her favorite color. After she got it she showed it to me and said, “look daddy, I have a pump like my sister does”. Maybe it was a small victory, maybe we took some high ground in this battle, or “held Little Round Top” figuratively speaking.

2011 was so much about the second diagnoses and trying to get into a routine. I really don’t remember anything that was not permeated with diabetes. It has become so much a part of our life. But in speaking with a D-Mom of 2 kids and a T1 husband, I came away with the idea of a routine. Slowly life as came back, and diabetes is a side story.

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